Anniversary Surprise!

Our six year anniversary held a sweet, wonderful surprise…

My steering wheel decided it didn’t like turning anymore, and instead of our planned celebratory evening, the evening was spent getting the car checked over.

Bleh.

The guy at the shop said it was probably the steering fluid. I asked if it could be electrical, since I heard a number of clicks and saw lights flashing before the steering went out. So he said he would check the battery. (That’s not what I meant by electrical)

He could find nothing wrong, so sent me off.

I went home and my husband took it for a drive. He discovered a few additional things not working:  the power windows would only go up and down in park; not drive or reverse, the radio = no sound, shifting sometimes refused to happen (it’s not good doing 25 at 4,000 rpm).

The next day my husband took it to a shop where one of the workers did not want to look at it because they thought it was possessed.

The third day, the problem was finally figured out. And fortunately it was only one thing that needed replaced:  the computer.

When you only have one vehicle, zero extra money, and you’re supposed to be celebrating your marriage…. It can be a little stressful.

Fortunately, I have the most wonderful husband in the world! Besides hugs and prayers, he made time for us to celebrate the day after our anniversary. He took me out for a picnic at a gorgeous park. It was perfect!

The Picnic

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Baditude.

Otherwise known as a “bad attitude”.

These past two weeks I have been sorely tempted to have a bad attitude, and sometimes gave in. Unfortunately.

Following a dream involves risk. And risks are compounded when you follow several dreams at the same time. Which is what my husband and I are doing. Risks always come with opportunities to choose a bad attitude.

I mentioned in a previous post, Financial Obstacles, that my job was not financially stable—I was hired to put finances in order. Sometimes things occur that make me feel like my input is not listened to with seriousness, or even though I am valued I am not respected for it.

Sometimes it is easy for me to view those instances as obstacles, a challenge, something capable of being overcome. Other times it feels like an insurmountable wall. When I just stare at that wall….that is when I begin displaying a “baditude”.

Depending on the situation, it might be easy to say, I shouldn’t have to put up with that. Or, am I really going to make a difference here? Or, are my efforts being wasted?

"Happiness is an attitude..."

We have been raised to believe we have “rights”. I may have a “right” to have a bad attitude. But should I? No! What does a bad attitude accomplish? Besides making us, and others around us, unhappy?

In the moment of having a bad attitude, I almost convince myself it’s okay because I am making known my frustration or disagreement. But there are better ways to communicate that.

It would be better for me to sit down and talk about what is frustrating me and why. My boss wants to dive in and address the issue immediately. I prefer to wait until I’m supposedly cooled down enough to not say anything I regret. I don’t know that either way is more correct, as long as we both approach the situation with a desire to understand.

I do not have control over someone else’s choices….but if I choose a baditude, I am getting in my own way. I will not have the opportunity to overcome obstacles others may throw in my path, because I am busy dealing with an obstacle I have given myself.

How do I approach situations where I am tempted to choose a bad attitude? Honestly, pray. I am a passionate person, and sometimes I need God’s help to rein myself in.

I would like to end with a quote:

“Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.”  -Francesca Reigler