A Tribe. A Family. A Dream?

I am blessed. By a group of people who are supporters, confidants, mentors, prayer warriors, cheerleaders, encouragers, think tanks, truth tellers, ideas people, accountability partners, driven, goal-setters, dream-pursuers, and….like family. Also known as a tribe.

Why do people think pursuing a dream has to be an “alone” journey? It doesn’t matter how unique your dream is or how much of an introvert you are, it’s possible to find people to make key connections with. And it’s good for you.

Becoming a tribe member introduced me to others with similar passions. Being part of that tribe has helped me grow as a person and leader, tremendously. It has helped me see the world in broader and deeper terms. It has exposed me to sheer joy. It is one of the things in life that has helped me develop in the direction I was created to go. And I will always treasure those relationships. Even though they may always remain cyber.

So. Whether or not it’s on the internet–through blogs or other forms of social media, or talking face to face–go find people to connect with. A group that’s just as passionate about specific things as you are. You just may find exactly where you were meant to be. And someday find yourself in the middle of your dream.

Who are your people?

Who are your people?

Do you have a group of people like that? On the internet, family, work, school, church?

Goal Setting, Self-Discipline & Dreams

I mentioned in an earlier post that I rediscovered my joy of writing fiction. I am more than ready to jump right in!

There are two things I have heard over and over, when it comes to seriously attempting something:  Make your goals very specific, and write them down. So here I go…

I am attempting to finish and publish a novel. And there are four things I have implemented, or plan to:

  • I contacted my former writing accountability partner. We plan to hold each other accountable for our use of time, and any specific goals. I am so excited! Getting feedback from another writer can be a ton of fun.
  • I purchased Michael Hyatt‘s Get Published. This is information I have always wanted to get my hands on! I have mentioned before that we are doing Dave Ramsey‘s baby steps, so this material was purchased with money made from selling our mower.
  • Once I am done training for my marathon, I will use that time to write. Marathon training has definitely upped my self-discipline ability!
  • I plan to participate in NaNoWriMo. National Novel Writing Month promotes quantity–50,000 words to be exact–over quality. But it will enable me to get the gist of my story out. I can go back to tweak and research later.

This is going to take a lot of self-discipline! But I figure, when’s a better time to start? Just this evening I told someone there are too many people who never pursue what they’re really passionate about…not enough time, not enough money, too many other things to do, or they spend too much time in front of the TV. If I have the chance to accomplish my dream, I’m going to go for it!

Of course, I haven’t given myself a specific deadline to have the first draft done… Maybe it should be January 1, 2013, considering I will be participating in NaNoWriMo. What do you think?

How have you used self-discipline to pursue your dreams, or to reach a goal?

Memorial Day “Aftermath”

Like many people Memorial Day weekend, we went out to enjoy music and fireworks!

Memorial Day Fireworks

After the celebration (which was a great one, I might add), everyone hurried to their cars in the parking garage….to wait.

I’m sure you can easily imagine the frozen chaos that was created by a multitude of people attempting to leave at the same time. We happened to be parked only a couple spaces from one of the garage’s turning points. And there was an SUV parked right at that point, trying to back up. Knowing things were going to take a while, I started people watching.

In a vehicle parked directly across from us, a few young people were jamming out. They were bouncing around, big smiles, throwing their hands every which way. I think they were the most excited people I’ve ever seen….waiting for beyond-slow traffic.

That SUV I mentioned earlier, trying to back up…. Well, someone was nice enough to stop and let them out. Or, at least they tried to.

As soon as that nice person stopped, some guy jumped out of the BMW behind them (no, I’m not stereotyping people who drive those cars. That’s just what he was driving). He marched up to that nice person’s window and motioned they needed to keep moving. As you can imagine, there was some confusion. That guy then strode to another car and acted like a traffic cop, motioning for them to stay out of his way. Then, until the nice people were able to move on, he stood between them and his car with his chin in the air and his arms crossed, keeping an eye on all the other vehicles. I looked at my husband and said, “I could never be married to a man like that!”

After that guy supposedly got his way and moved on, someone let us in. We let the people in who were motioned to stay out of the guy’s way, and they let the SUV in.

And those young people jamming out in their vehicle…. They were still jamming and as happy as could be!

I don’t know why that guy felt like he “deserved” to be out more than anyone else.

It made me wonder, when we’re faced with inconvenient things in life, do we demand our way at the expense of others? Or do we find an opportunity to create joy?

Related Posts:

Memorial Day 2012 by One After Another ~ Grace upon grace, One blessing after another

Friday’s Focus On:  Memorial Day in the Nation’s Capital by Cute Dogs & Hugs

memorial day meal by morethanavisit, From Texas to Illinois

Photo Friday:  “Two flags up!” by Devil Dog Graphix’s Blog

Fireworks in Hot Springs for Memorial Day by Found Round & About

Most People Never Get There

I receive quotes from Runner’s World via e-mail every day. And the other day I received one that made me think, I have to share this on my blog!

“Most people never get there. They’re afraid or unwilling to demand enough of themselves and take the easy road, the path of least resistance. But struggling and suffering, as I now saw it, were the essence of a life worth living. If you’re not pushing yourself beyond the comfort zone, if you’re not constantly demanding more from yourself—expanding and learning as you go—you’re choosing a numb existence. You’re denying yourself an extraordinary trip.”   —Dean Karnazes

Think about it.

Most people want to take the “easy” road in life. They want to do what makes them feel comfortable. When things don’t go their way, they shout that it’s not fair. BUT at the same time those people usually seem miserable, at the very least not satisfied with life. They have no real joy.


Where does real joy come from? A favorite TV show? Fast food? Shopping? Relaxing? Puppies? Kittens?

Or is it something deeper? Discovery? Accomplishment? Giving? Learning? Loving?

I believe it is something deeper still:  a relationship with God.

I could go on and on about why I believe true joy can only be found with God, but to tie back to Karno’s quote….with God we gain confidence in accomplishing the impossible. The demands, resistance, struggle, and suffering become surmountable, even worthwhile.

The sentence that pops out to me is, “But struggling and suffering…were the essence of a life worth living.”

Have you heard the idea that if there are no conflicts in a marriage, the couple is not in love? The more one invests in a marriage the greater the chance of conflict, because people are making themselves vulnerable. At the same time, the more one invests in a marriage the greater that marriage will become.

The same goes for life. The more one invests in life, the greater the chance of struggle and suffering. At the same time, the greater one’s life will be.

Are you denying yourself an extraordinary trip?