Otherwise known as a “bad attitude”.
These past two weeks I have been sorely tempted to have a bad attitude, and sometimes gave in. Unfortunately.
Following a dream involves risk. And risks are compounded when you follow several dreams at the same time. Which is what my husband and I are doing. Risks always come with opportunities to choose a bad attitude.
I mentioned in a previous post, Financial Obstacles, that my job was not financially stable—I was hired to put finances in order. Sometimes things occur that make me feel like my input is not listened to with seriousness, or even though I am valued I am not respected for it.
Sometimes it is easy for me to view those instances as obstacles, a challenge, something capable of being overcome. Other times it feels like an insurmountable wall. When I just stare at that wall….that is when I begin displaying a “baditude”.
Depending on the situation, it might be easy to say, I shouldn’t have to put up with that. Or, am I really going to make a difference here? Or, are my efforts being wasted?
We have been raised to believe we have “rights”. I may have a “right” to have a bad attitude. But should I? No! What does a bad attitude accomplish? Besides making us, and others around us, unhappy?
In the moment of having a bad attitude, I almost convince myself it’s okay because I am making known my frustration or disagreement. But there are better ways to communicate that.
It would be better for me to sit down and talk about what is frustrating me and why. My boss wants to dive in and address the issue immediately. I prefer to wait until I’m supposedly cooled down enough to not say anything I regret. I don’t know that either way is more correct, as long as we both approach the situation with a desire to understand.
I do not have control over someone else’s choices….but if I choose a baditude, I am getting in my own way. I will not have the opportunity to overcome obstacles others may throw in my path, because I am busy dealing with an obstacle I have given myself.
How do I approach situations where I am tempted to choose a bad attitude? Honestly, pray. I am a passionate person, and sometimes I need God’s help to rein myself in.
I would like to end with a quote:
“Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.” -Francesca Reigler